Now that I am a mother of two, I really miss my therapist. She retired and moved out of state. Going to therapy was an obligatory part of getting my psychology degree, but going felt like I was the woman in the old 70s Calgon commercial sinking into her spa tub (“Calgon take me away!”).She was the only one who never interupted me, something I appreciate SO much more now that my children are constantly competing for my attention.
Before I had children, I thought when I was a parent I would still run in the mornings, ballroom dance, hike, and read thick books. You know, all the things that make you feel centered. Now I know that finding time for me takes second place after every one of the other 50 things on my ‘to-do’ list. Its a struggle to take care of myself so I can take care of others.
But its something we have to do! Remember the lesson the stewardess teaches before the plane takes off–make sure to secure your own oxygen mask before helping others. We can’t help them if we are gasping for air ourselves. How many of us moms out there know its been years since our last dental appt or physical? Do you fantasize about not getting your hair done at Hair Cuttery, where you have to go because its the only place where you can be in and out in 15 minutes? Did you stop going to the gym to make time to be a fundraiser for the PTA? Do your undyed roots frighten small children?
If there’s something bothering you, holding you back, or you just need a safe place to rejuvinate and de-stress, consider carving out some ‘me time’ to take care of your spirit. You may feel guilty at first, but remember the old bumper sticker: “When momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!” Its good for you and for them too.